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\u00d6ncelikle, Tanr\u0131\u2019n\u0131n izin verdi\u011fiyle istedi\u011finin iki ayr\u0131 \u015fey oldu\u011funu s\u00f6ylememe izin verin. Tanr\u0131 kimsenin cehenneme gitmesini istiyor<\/em> mu? Hay\u0131r! \u201c…size kar\u015f\u0131 sabrediyor. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc kimsenin mahvolmas\u0131n\u0131 istemiyor, herkesin t\u00f6vbe etmesini istiyor.\u201d (2. Petrus 3: 9, \u0130ncil)<\/p>\nDi\u011fer taraftan, Tanr\u0131 baz\u0131 insanlar\u0131n cehenneme gitmesine izin veriyor mu<\/em>? Evet, izin veriyor. Bu se\u00e7im hakk\u0131na sahip olmalar\u0131na izin veriyor. Tanr\u0131 g\u00fcnah i\u015flemenizi istiyor mu<\/em>? Hay\u0131r. Tanr\u0131, g\u00fcnah\u0131 yaratmam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r ve g\u00fcnah\u0131 savunmaz. Tanr\u0131 size g\u00fcnah i\u015fleme \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc verir mi? Evet, ama bunun bedeli olarak ortaya \u00e7\u0131kan baz\u0131 sonu\u00e7lar olacakt\u0131r. Tanr\u0131 \u00e7oke\u015flili\u011fi ister mi? \u0130stemez, ama Tevrat ve Zebur\u2019da buna izin vermi\u015fti. Tanr\u0131, g\u00fcnah\u0131 desteklemedi\u011fi gibi \u00e7oke\u015flili\u011fi de desteklemez.<\/p>\n Tanr\u0131\u2019n\u0131n standard\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131kt\u0131r. Tanr\u0131 Adem\u2019i yaratt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, onun i\u00e7in iki ya da daha fazla de\u011fil, bir<\/em> Havva yaratt\u0131. Tanr\u0131 Eski Antla\u015fma\u2019da \u00e7oke\u015flili\u011fe izin verse de bunu tasarlamam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Tanr\u0131\u2019n\u0131n evlilik i\u00e7in as\u0131l amac\u0131 bir erkek ve kad\u0131n aras\u0131nda olmas\u0131yd\u0131. \u0130nsanl\u0131k tarihinin ba\u015flang\u0131c\u0131nda Yarat\u0131l\u0131\u015f kitab\u0131nda neler s\u00f6yledi\u011fine bak\u0131n:<\/p>\n \u201cAdem, \u2018\u0130\u015fte, bu benim kemiklerimden al\u0131nm\u0131\u015f kemik, Etimden al\u0131nm\u0131\u015f ettir\u2019 dedi, \u2018Ona ‘Kad\u0131n denilecek, \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc o adamdan al\u0131nd\u0131.\u2019 Bu nedenle adam annesini babas\u0131n\u0131 b\u0131rak\u0131p kar\u0131s\u0131na ba\u011flanacak, ikisi tek beden olacak.\u201d (Yarat\u0131l\u0131\u015f 2: 23-24, Eski Antla\u015fma)<\/p>\n \u0130ki ki\u015fi, tek beden. Tanr\u0131\u2019n\u0131n tasar\u0131s\u0131 buydu. \u00c7oke\u015flilik sadece Tanr\u0131\u2019n\u0131n evlilik tasar\u0131s\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131 olmakla kalm\u0131yor, ayn\u0131 zamanda insan do\u011fas\u0131na da kar\u015f\u0131d\u0131r. \u0130ster, M\u00fcsl\u00fcman, ister H\u0131ristiyan, ister Yahudi olsun, hi\u00e7bir kad\u0131n, kocas\u0131n\u0131n kollar\u0131nda ba\u015fka bir kad\u0131n g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde mutlu olmaz. Bu, di\u011fer kad\u0131n adam\u0131n e\u015flerinden biri olsa da, kocas\u0131n\u0131n zina etti\u011fi bir kad\u0131n olsa da fark etmez. <\/p>\n Kendisini tuza\u011fa d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcrmek, O\u2019nu tutuklamak ve \u00f6ld\u00fcrmek isteyen, kendi d\u00f6neminin din \u00f6nderleri taraf\u0131ndan denendikten sonra \u0130sa evlilik hakk\u0131nda \u015f\u00f6yle s\u00f6ylemi\u015fti:<\/p>\n \u201c\u0130sa’n\u0131n yan\u0131na gelen baz\u0131 Ferisiler, O’nu denemek amac\u0131yla \u015funu sordular: \u2018Bir adam\u0131n, herhangi bir nedenle kar\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 bo\u015famas\u0131 Kutsal Yasa’ya uygun mudur?\u2019 Yarat\u0131l\u0131\u015f\u0131n s\u0131ras\u0131n\u0131 ve Tanr\u0131\u2019n\u0131n evlilik i\u00e7in amac\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz zaman Tanr\u0131\u2019n\u0131n ne bo\u015fanma ne de \u00e7oke\u015flilik i\u00e7in bir d\u00fczenleme yapmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcyoruz. Adem birden fazla e\u015fle evlenemezdi, ayn\u0131 \u015fekilde daha sonra herhangi bir nedenle Havva\u2019dan bo\u015fan\u0131p ba\u015fka bir insanla evlenemezdi. <\/p>\n Kutsal Kitap, \u0130ncil zaman\u0131na dek \u00e7oke\u015flili\u011fi a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a yarg\u0131lamaz. Ama bu, Tanr\u0131\u2019n\u0131n bundan \u00f6nce \u00e7oke\u015flili\u011fi onaylad\u0131\u011f\u0131 anlam\u0131na gelmez. Tanr\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a \u00e7oke\u015flili\u011fi yasaklamad\u0131\u011f\u0131 halde bunu \u00e7e\u015fitli \u015fekillerde de te\u015fvik etmemi\u015ftir. Musa\u2019n\u0131n Yasas\u0131\u2019nda evlili\u011fi d\u00fczenleyen k\u0131s\u0131m, \u00e7oke\u015flili\u011fi hi\u00e7bir zaman te\u015fvik etmez ya da onaylamaz. Aksine, o kadar kat\u0131 bir \u015fekilde d\u00fczenleme getiriyor ki erkekleri birden fazla e\u015f almaktan cayd\u0131rmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yor. <\/p>\n Bug\u00fcn evlilik konusunda Tanr\u0131\u2019n\u0131n sizin i\u00e7in sahip oldu\u011fu en iyi se\u00e7ene\u011fi istiyorsan\u0131z, Yarat\u0131l\u0131\u015f 2:18-24\u2019te bizlere s\u00f6yledi\u011fini anlaman\u0131z \u00e7ok \u00f6nemlidir. Evlili\u011fin Mimar\u0131\u2019na dan\u0131\u015fal\u0131m ve bakal\u0131m ne diyor:<\/p>\n \u201cSonra, \u2018Adem’in yaln\u0131z kalmas\u0131 iyi de\u011fil\u2019 dedi, \u2018Ona uygun bir Yard\u0131mc\u0131 Yarataca\u011f\u0131m.\u2019 RAB Tanr\u0131 yerdeki hayvanlar\u0131n, g\u00f6kteki ku\u015flar\u0131n t\u00fcm\u00fcn\u00fc topraktan Yaratm\u0131\u015ft\u0131. Onlara ne ad verece\u011fini g\u00f6rmek i\u00e7in hepsini Adem’e getirdi. Adem her birine ne ad verdiyse, o canl\u0131 o adla an\u0131ld\u0131. Adem b\u00fct\u00fcn evcil ve yaban\u0131l hayvanlara, g\u00f6kte u\u00e7an ku\u015flara ad koydu. Ama kendisi i\u00e7in uygun bir Yard\u0131mc\u0131 bulunmad\u0131. RAB Tanr\u0131 Adem’e derin bir uyku verdi. Adem uyurken, RAB Tanr\u0131 onun kaburga kemiklerinden birini al\u0131p yerini etle kapad\u0131. Adem’den ald\u0131\u011f\u0131 kaburga kemi\u011finden bir kad\u0131n Yaratarak onu Adem’e getirdi. Tanr\u0131\u2019n\u0131n Adem\u2019in durumu i\u00e7in dan\u0131\u015fmas\u0131na gerek yoktu. Tanr\u0131 Adem\u2019in ya\u015fam\u0131n\u0131 birlikte ge\u00e7irece\u011fi bir e\u015finin olmas\u0131n\u0131n onun i\u00e7in iyi olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcyordu. Bu nedenle, Adem\u2019e bir \u2018yard\u0131mc\u0131\u2019 sa\u011flad\u0131. Sadece bir<\/em> yard\u0131mc\u0131. Eski Antla\u015fma\u2019da nerede \u00e7oke\u015flilik g\u00f6rseniz, Tanr\u0131\u2019n\u0131n izin verdi\u011fi ama insanlar\u0131n Tanr\u0131\u2019ya dan\u0131\u015fmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir konu g\u00f6r\u00fcrs\u00fcn\u00fcz. Tanr\u0131 birden fazla e\u015fin oldu\u011fu bir evlili\u011fi asla tasarlamam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Tanr\u0131\u2019n\u0131n do\u011frudan iste\u011finden farkl\u0131 olan kararlar\u0131m\u0131za, sefalet ve mutsuzluk mutlaka e\u015flik edecektir. Bu da, Tanr\u0131\u2019n\u0131n evlilik tasar\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 her \u015fekilde \u00e7i\u011fnememizi kapsar. Evet, Tanr\u0131 Kral Davut\u2019un, S\u00fcleyman ve di\u011ferlerinin birden fazla e\u015f almalar\u0131na izin verdi ama bu adamlar\u0131n ya\u015famlar\u0131n\u0131 inceledi\u011finizde bu evliliklerin neden oldu\u011fu ac\u0131 ve b\u00f6l\u00fcnmeyi g\u00f6r\u00fcrs\u00fcn\u00fcz. <\/p>\n <\/p>\n Tanr\u0131, Eski Antla\u015fma\u2019da t\u0131pk\u0131 bo\u015fanmaya izin verildi\u011fi gibi bir s\u00fcre i\u00e7in izin verilmi\u015f olsa da, \u00e7oke\u015flili\u011fin kabul edilebilir oldu\u011funu asla s\u00f6ylememi\u015ftir. \u0130ncil, evlili\u011fin tek bir erkek ve tek bir kad\u0131n aras\u0131nda, bu ki\u015filerin kendilerini birbirleriyle s\u0131n\u0131rlamalar\u0131 ko\u015fuluna dayand\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a ortaya koyar:<\/p>\n \u201c…her erkek kar\u0131s\u0131yla, her kad\u0131n da kocas\u0131yla ya\u015fas\u0131n.\u201d (1. Korintliler 7:2, \u0130ncil)<\/p>\n Tanr\u0131\u2019ya bu \u015fekilde adand\u0131n\u0131z m\u0131? Evlili\u011finizde, ya\u015fant\u0131n\u0131z boyunca tek bir e\u015fe sad\u0131k kalaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131za ili\u015fkin bir adanm\u0131\u015fl\u0131k sunuduz mu? Ge\u00e7en g\u00fcn bir duvar yaz\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6rd\u00fcm. \u015e\u00f6yle diyordu:<\/p>\n Sevgili Mary,<\/p>\n Sana olan sevgim en y\u00fcksek da\u011flar\u0131 t\u0131rman\u0131r. En s\u0131cak \u00e7\u00f6lleri a\u015far. Sana olan sevgim nedeniyle en b\u00fcy\u00fck okyanuslar\u0131 ge\u00e7erim ve u\u011fruna \u00f6l\u00fcr\u00fcm.<\/p>\n Sevgiler, Not: Ya\u011fmur ya\u011fmazsa, Pazar g\u00fcn\u00fc g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr\u00fcz.<\/p>\n Adanm\u0131\u015fl\u0131k iki ki\u015finin birbirini tan\u0131mas\u0131 ve kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131klar\u0131 zorluklar\u0131n \u00fcstesinden gelmelerine yard\u0131mc\u0131 olur. Adanm\u0131\u015fl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z yoksa evlili\u011finizin d\u0131\u015f\u0131na \u00e7\u0131kman\u0131n bir yolunu mutlaka bulacaks\u0131n\u0131z demektir. Ya da \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131z i\u00e7in ya da ba\u015fka nedenlerle bu ili\u015fkide kal\u0131p kar\u015f\u0131 cinsle s\u00fcrekli olarak ili\u015fkiye girip \u00e7\u0131kars\u0131n\u0131z. <\/p>\n \u0130lk sorunuza yan\u0131t\u0131m\u0131, \u0130ncil\u2019de sevgiyle ilgili bir b\u00f6l\u00fcmden al\u0131nt\u0131 yaparak son vermek istiyorum. Ancak bu \u015fekilde bir sevgiyle e\u015finize olan adanm\u0131\u015fl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 koruyabilirsiniz. Ancak b\u00f6yle bir sevgiyle kar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131layabilirsiniz. Bu ayetlerin bulundu\u011fu \u0130ncil, sizi bu \u015fekilde seven bir Tanr\u0131\u2019y\u0131 bulaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z kitapt\u0131r:<\/p>\n \u201cSevgi sab\u0131rl\u0131d\u0131r, sevgi \u015fefkatlidir. Sevgi k\u0131skanmaz, \u00f6v\u00fcnmez, b\u00f6b\u00fcrlenmez. Sevgi kaba davranmaz, kendi \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131n\u0131 aramaz, kolay kolay \u00f6fkelenmez, k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn hesab\u0131n\u0131 tutmaz. Sevgi haks\u0131zl\u0131\u011fa sevinmez, ger\u00e7ek olanla sevinir. Sevgi her \u015feye katlan\u0131r, her \u015feye inan\u0131r, her \u015feyi umut eder, her \u015feye dayan\u0131r. Sevgi asla son bulmaz.\u201d (1. Korintliler 13: 4-8, \u0130ncil)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" \u00d6ncelikle, Tanr\u0131\u2019n\u0131n izin verdi\u011fiyle istedi\u011finin iki ayr\u0131 \u015fey oldu\u011funu s\u00f6ylememe izin verin. Tanr\u0131 kimsenin cehenneme gitmesini istiyor mu? Hay\u0131r! \u201c…size kar\u015f\u0131 sabrediyor. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc kimsenin mahvolmas\u0131n\u0131 istemiyor, herkesin t\u00f6vbe etmesini istiyor.\u201d (2. Petrus 3: 9, \u0130ncil) Di\u011fer taraftan, Tanr\u0131 baz\u0131 insanlar\u0131n cehenneme gitmesine izin veriyor mu? Evet, izin veriyor. Bu se\u00e7im hakk\u0131na sahip olmalar\u0131na izin…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1335","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/cennet.trinitywebhosting.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1335","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/cennet.trinitywebhosting.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/cennet.trinitywebhosting.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cennet.trinitywebhosting.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cennet.trinitywebhosting.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1335"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/cennet.trinitywebhosting.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1335\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/cennet.trinitywebhosting.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1335"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cennet.trinitywebhosting.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1335"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cennet.trinitywebhosting.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1335"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}![\"02](\"images\/FAQ_KKitap\/01_Polygam\/02_polygamy2_temp5_45.jpg\")
\u0130sa \u015fu kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 verdi: \u2018Kutsal Yaz\u0131lar’\u0131 okumad\u0131n\u0131z m\u0131? Yaradan ba\u015flang\u0131\u00e7tan ‘\u0130nsanlar\u0131 erkek ve di\u015fi olarak yaratt\u0131’ ve \u015f\u00f6yle dedi: ‘Bu nedenle adam annesini babas\u0131n\u0131 b\u0131rak\u0131p kar\u0131s\u0131na ba\u011flanacak, ikisi tek beden olacak.’ \u015e\u00f6yle ki, onlar art\u0131k iki de\u011fil, tek bedendir. O halde Tanr\u0131’n\u0131n birle\u015ftirdi\u011fini, insan ay\u0131rmas\u0131n.\u2019
Ferisiler \u0130sa’ya, \u2018\u00d6yleyse\u2019 dediler, \u2018Musa neden erke\u011fin bo\u015fanma belgesi verip kar\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 bo\u015fayabilece\u011fini s\u00f6yledi?\u2019
\u0130sa onlara, \u2018\u0130nat\u00e7\u0131 oldu\u011funuz i\u00e7in Musa kar\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 bo\u015faman\u0131za izin verdi\u2019 dedi. \u2018Ba\u015flang\u0131\u00e7ta bu b\u00f6yle de\u011fildi. Ben size \u015funu s\u00f6yleyeyim, kar\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 fuhu\u015ftan ba\u015fka bir nedenle bo\u015fay\u0131p ba\u015fkas\u0131yla evlenen, zina etmi\u015f olur. Bo\u015fanan kad\u0131nla evlenen de zina etmi\u015f olur.\u2019\u201d (Matta 19: 3-9, \u0130ncil)<\/p>\n![\"03](\"images\/FAQ_KKitap\/01_Polygam\/03_one%20piece3_temp5%20wide%20green%2045.jpg\")
\u00c7oke\u015flili\u011fe, \u00f6rne\u011fin, ilk evlilikte \u00e7ocuk olmamas\u0131 halinde izin veriliyordu. Eski \u0130srail\u2019de, \u00e7ocuk sahibi olunmamas\u0131 bir aile felaketi say\u0131l\u0131yordu. Bunun birka\u00e7 nedeni vard\u0131. Tar\u0131m k\u00fclt\u00fcrlerinde g\u00fcnl\u00fck i\u015flerin yap\u0131lmas\u0131 i\u00e7in \u00e7ocuklara ihtiya\u00e7 duyuluyordu. Erkek \u00e7ocuk olmadan, aile ismi korunamaz, miras\u00e7\u0131 olmadan aile oymaklar\u0131na pay edilen k\u0131sm\u0131 koruyamazd\u0131. Son olarak, \u0130sraili Mesih\u2019i bekledi\u011fi i\u00e7in, kad\u0131n\u0131n \u00e7ocu\u011fu olmamas\u0131 halinde, gelecek Olan, Vaat Edilenin annesi ya da atas\u0131 olma f\u0131rsat\u0131na sahip olamazd\u0131.<\/p>\n
Adem, \u2018\u0130\u015fte, bu benim kemiklerimden al\u0131nm\u0131\u015f kemik, Etimden al\u0131nm\u0131\u015f ettir\u2019 dedi, \u2018Ona ‘Kad\u0131n denilecek, \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc o adamdan al\u0131nd\u0131.\u2019 Bu nedenle adam annesini babas\u0131n\u0131 b\u0131rak\u0131p kar\u0131s\u0131na ba\u011flanacak, ikisi tek beden olacak.\u201d (Yarat\u0131l\u0131\u015f 2:18-24, Eski Antla\u015fma)<\/p>\n
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\u0130nsan birden fazla kad\u0131nla evlenebilir ama onlar\u0131 e\u015fit bir \u015fekilde sevemez. \u00c7oke\u015flilik, Kutsal Kitap\u2019a uygun sevgiyle mant\u0131ksal olarak uyu\u015fmaz ve tutarl\u0131 de\u011fildir. S\u00f6z konusu ger\u00e7ek sevgi oldu\u011funda, erkek bir kad\u0131n\u0131 \u2018di\u011fer b\u00fct\u00fcn kad\u0131nlardan\u2019 \u00fcst\u00fcn tutmay\u0131 se\u00e7er. Sevgi, bir insan\u0131 ba\u015fkalar\u0131ndan ayr\u0131 ve \u00fcst\u00fcn tutmak demektir. Kad\u0131n, kocas\u0131n\u0131n ya\u015fam\u0131ndaki eksik yapboz par\u00e7as\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flar. Kad\u0131n adam\u0131 tamamlar. Her ikisi de birbirleriyle birle\u015fir ve ba\u015fkas\u0131 de\u011fil, sadece ikisi birbirlerinin ihtiyac\u0131n\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131lar. <\/p>\n
Jim<\/p>\n![\"05](\"images\/FAQ_KKitap\/01_Polygam\/05_image10266%20elderly%2045.jpg\")
Bug\u00fcnlerde, \u00e7o\u011fu insan birbirine bu kadar adanm\u0131\u015fl\u0131k g\u00f6steriyor. Adanm\u0131\u015fl\u0131klar\u0131 yakla\u015f\u0131k alt\u0131 kilometre geni\u015fli\u011finde ve bir santimetre derinli\u011findedir. Tanr\u0131 bizlere evli oldu\u011fumuz e\u015fimize ba\u011fl\u0131 kalmam\u0131z\u0131 s\u00f6yledi\u011finde, ancak \u00f6l\u00fcmle bozulabilecek, ya\u015fam boyu s\u00fcrecek bir antla\u015fma yapmam\u0131z\u0131 istedi\u011fini kasteder. Tamam\u0131yla ba\u011fl\u0131 oldu\u011fumuz bir ili\u015fkiyi (anne ve babam\u0131zla olan ili\u015fki) b\u0131rak\u0131p e\u015fimize tamam\u0131yla ba\u011flan\u0131r, kendimizi adar\u0131z.<\/p>\n